Many times a week, actually lets be honest, (sometimes many times a day) my inner thoughts try to tell me that I’m not doing a good enough job. Am I doing enough? Am I playing with my child enough? Am I doing enough activities with my child? Does he know the things that he is supposed to know at his age? Am I being a good enough wife? What can I do to be better? Is my house clean enough, and how can I get it to be cleaner? How can I be more patient? And how do I make time for myself (blog on this topic will be coming soon!)?
In my thoughts, I often compare myself to others that I know and some that I don’t know. I see all that they are doing with their kids and I think, I really need to up my game. Sometimes I even feel bad for my child, that I’m not more fun. But the truth is, there are so many things that are unseen. The laundry, cooking, changing of diapers, clothing, feeding, cleaning up after spills, kissing cuts, and loving on your child are all unseen to the outside eye. As working and/or stay at home moms, either some or most of our days are spent doing the things that are hidden to the outside world. And yet, this is what takes up most of our days.
Am I enough?
“God gave those little children to you, Mama- to you. No one else can mother them life you can. You may have your work cut out for you, but you’re the one cut out to accomplish it.” Erin Odom
As we start this new month, I want to remind all of you, that you are enough. You are the perfect parent for your child. Are we perfect? Absolutely not. But we are exactly what they need. Yes, we can make goals to become better parents, but we also need to rest in knowing that we are enough. Embrace the now. Hold onto the “unseen” moments. Thrive on the unexpected. Search for opportunities to show your child (individually) that they are loved. Play more.
Those unseen moments are some of the most important times for your child. In these moments, you are making them feel safe, loved, valued, and seen. The little things (sometimes they feel very big at the time) are truly shaping our children. Take courage in knowing that your unseen moments are and will be worth it in the long run.
Quote – “I know it’s hard mama. I know it can be hard to get up every day and have these little people rely on you. I know it’s hard to feel like sometimes your world is so small. I want to remind you, you are the world. You are the world that those little ones revolve around. You are their nurture, their home, and their comfort. You are everything to them, and I hope even on your hard days you know how special you are. Especially to your little people.” Anonymous
You’ve got this, and you are seen. Please remember, you are so much MORE than just enough.